Three (3) Reasons Why Women and Men Are Saying They are Finished with Each Other

 

Three (3) Reasons Why Women and Men Are Saying They Are Finished with Each Other

by CathyHarrisSpeaks.com

New Earth Educator, Spiritual Nomad, and Holistic Healer

Jan. 27, 2026

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I am a dating and relationship coach at www.DearCathy.com and I teach the Divine Feminine (www.DivineFeminineWomen.com). My relationship book is entitled “Love After 50: Love Questions from DearCathy.com After Hours.”

We knew relationships would be breaking up as we transitioned into the 5D New Earth, but we had no idea it would be on such a massive scale, with all the hate, bitterness, and darkness being exposed.

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-Just a Few Words to Describe Some Relationships: Relationships were slowly killing them. Some relationships are soul sucking, draining, exhausting, demoralizing, crushing, suffocating, stifling, depleting, withering, killing you slowly, spirit and soul crashing, life-draining, energy siphoning, mind numbing, moral killing, will breaking, emotionally draining, spiritually bankrupt, creativity stifling, psychologically exhausting, death by a thousand cuts, killing your spirit, zapping your energy, etc.

Women online are listing 20 reasons why they don’t want to be with a man. Many women are doing this, and there are a ton of discussions on the topic.

Men are also listing ways why they don’t want to be with women. Mothers are even warning their young sons that if they don’t treat their wives right, they will leave them.

Three (3) reasons couples are waking up and announcing they no longer want to be with each other:

1. The Women and Men are Becoming ‘Spiritual’: It is my opinion that these women and men are becoming Spiritual, and many or most are probably even ‘StarSeeds’. Read the blog post entitled “Which StarSeeds Are You?”

During a Spiritual Awakening, you don’t want anything to do with anyone who is not ‘authentic’ or ‘truthful,’ and this can include a mate, a significant other, a partner, or even a spouse.  So, this is why both sexes have developed a major dislike for the other sex.

Read the blog post entitled “Signs You are Experiencing a Spiritual Awakening”  — so you can understand how people start to drift away from people, from hobbies, or other things that no longer resonate with them. This includes their mates, significant others, partners, and spouses.

There will come a time when they will seek out the company of the opposite sex, once they complete their Shadow Work, but first, those waking up and becoming Spiritual know it’s important to #IsolateToElevate.

Eventually, they will be seeking a Divine ‘HEALED’ Spiritual Partner. So read the blog post entitled “How To Raise Your Frequencies and Vibrations.”

2. Women and Men Now Know About the ‘Narcissists’: Women and men are walking out of marriages, especially when they learn about the ‘Narcissists’. Many are trying to figure out if they are with Narcissists.

Social media has made it easy for everyone to see the Narcissists in action, especially the ones running the Matrix, and couples don’t like what they see.   

Everyone is sitting on platforms listening to all the stories and testimonies from women and men on how the Narcissist’s main goals are to take away their joy and kill their spirit, while siphoning their energy and light, even when they are their mates, significant others, partners, and spouses.

Fully grown men are online crying because of what Narcissistic women have done to them. Women in relationships with Narcissists are being killed by their partners, who are probably the ‘Malignant Narcissist’ (aka ‘Psychopaths’ or ‘Sociopaths’).

The young and old are being driven crazy online by the Narcissists. Women who work in psych wards are stating that psych wards are full of women who were driven crazy by their husbands, aka “The Narcissists.”

After being married for over 30 years to obvious Narcissists, who had affairs, women on social media are saying their husbands told them they NEVER loved them.

One man told his wife that the only woman he loved had walked out on him. They are asking social media, should they stay or go after 30 years? Yes, leave and #GlowUp. Your life isn’t over.

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Understand, when you are with these Narcissists, who are also Warlocks or, in many cases, Witches, they are siphoning your energy and your light – sucking the life out of you. You have to go #NoContact and end these relationships. Again, read the blog post entitled “Narcissists Run the 3D Matrix.” 

3. Men and Women Dislike Each Other Because They Have Seen Them Morph or Shapeshift into Something Else: Again, are we being conditioned to be with UNATTRACTIVE HUSBANDS and UNATTRACTIVE WIVES with the movie “Beauty and the Beast?” What if women dislike men and vice versa because they have seen them morph or shapeshift into something non-human? 

Remember, you have GOOD and BAD Humans and GOOD and BAD Reptilians. Supposedly, there are over a thousand Reptilian races, and only 5% are bad. The bad ones will disappear as we keep going up in frequency, and especially when the bells return. 

Remember, with the veil now lifted, we are about to see everything. If these individuals are indeed StarSeeds, many of the StarSeeds, I believe, the Andromedans and Lyrans have a major dislike for the Reptilians. They have declared war on them for years. Because of their lineages, they don’t want anything to do with the Reptilians.

Women are saying men’s eyes change when they get upset or when they make love. Their eyes turn completely black. Also, their facial features often change. Their heads become elongated, and their nose get bigger. 

This will explain why women are saying they are waking up and their husbands have shifted into a Reptilian. Many say they try to leave and disappear before they wake up, then they try to go #NoContact, just like they have to do to deal with ‘Narcissists’. 

It’s also the reason many men are saying they have witnessed their wives shifting into a ‘demon-like’ state. One man said that when he witnessed his wife morph into something, he did not wait for the transformation to complete. He said he fled and did not come back for 2 weeks.

Many women and men are finding out their mates, significant others, partners, and spouses are ‘Reptilians’. Most are also ‘Narcissists’ and ‘Warlocks’, so they are being abused and can’t get away.

Many don’t have the funding to leave. Some women did leave their mates just by using their 2026 income tax returns, so you know they will leave once they receive their Gesara funds. They have to go #NoContact. 

We knew the Reptilians were over the Deep State Cabal. What if the “Narcissists that Run the 3D Matrix” are also ‘Reptilians’?

My Two Cents as a Dating and Love Coach

This is just ‘My Two Cents’ as a Dating and Love Coach after listening to couples complain about everything under the sun for months. Understand that arguing or listening to others argue is 3D, so that is an emotion you need to get away from. 

This is what couples are complaining about:

-Finding out men online are calling for ‘violence against women’. Over 700,000 men were in a group discussing how to commit violence against their mothers, wives, girlfriends, and children.

-Finding out women online are calling for ‘women-only’ ‘safe-haven’ communities.

-Finding out that women online are calling for women not to have children by ‘abusive’ men.

-Finding out women online are saying ALL THEIR FRIENDS are in ‘abusive’ relationships. They said not one of their friends is happy in their relationships.

-Many couples just don’t like each other, or they no longer want to be together.

-Couples are finding out their spouses are on the DL. Many men are admitting this.

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Meanwhile, abstain from having sex with anyone or walk into a doctor’s office together to get tested. Don’t do the home HIV kit because if you have HIV, it won’t show it. Abstinence is the personal choice to refrain from sexual activity (vaginal, oral, or anal) to avoid pregnancy and STIs.

It is 100% effective, free, has no side effects, and can be practiced at any time, regardless of past sexual history. Reasons range from personal, emotional, or religious values to waiting for the right partner. 

The Answer is ‘Trial Separations’

A trial separation is an informal, voluntary arrangement in which married couples live apart for a set period to evaluate their relationship, often to avoid divorce or address conflict.

Unlike legal separation, it involves no court orders. Success requires clear rules on finances, living arrangements, communication, and often, couples therapy.

-Who Are Marriage Counselors? Marriage counselors, primarily Licensed Marriage and Family Therapists (LMFTs), specialize in helping couples resolve conflicts, improve communication, and address intimacy issues.

Other qualified professionals include Licensed Professional Counselors (LPC), Licensed Mental Health Counselors (LMHC), and, in some cases, Licensed Clinical Social Workers (LCSW). 

Just remember, most men aren’t going to these therapists anyway, especially if they are ‘Narcissists.’

These therapists and counselors are stuck in the 3D ‘Matrix’, so they can’t really help anyone going through marital issues who might be transitioning into the 5D. Therefore, I would skip them altogether and do your Shadow Work.

-Who Are Church Marriage Counselors? Church marriage counselors are trained professionals, often licensed therapists (LPC, LMFT) or certified pastoral counselors, who integrate psychological principles with Christian, biblical truths to support couples.

They provide services such as premarital counseling, crisis intervention, and relationship strengthening, often working within or alongside religious organizations, such as Catholic Charities or local non-denominational churches.

When everyone finds out that ALL CHURCHES and EVERY RELIGION were involved in Child Trafficking, many will walk away from churches.

-How Long Should Couples Separate: It depends on how much time they need apart, but they need to at least stay apart for 6 months to 2 years or maybe even longer in order to heal. 

-Why Trial Separations Will Work: When everyone receives their Gesara funds, just do trial separations. It’s not like you won’t have enough money to do it.

You can put up to 4 people down as beneficiaries, but don’t put your mate, significant other, partner, or spouse down as a beneficiary until you have made a decision about being together. 

Besides all the money that you are about to receive, over the next year, there will be a TON OF EMPTY homes, apartments, townhouses, and condos because the NPCs are disappearing. Instead of 8 billion people being on Earth, it will be more like one (1) billion.

There will be opportunities for many to move into Extended Stay Hotels or Airbnbs, so there will be no excuse not to find a dwelling. You can also get out on the road in an RV, van, or another vehicle. People will come together who want to really be together.

-Who SHOULD NOT Do the ‘Trial Separations’:

1. If Couples Really Love Each Other: If couples are really getting along, and they believe they love each other and their family.

2. If Couples Have Small Children: If they have small children whom they don’t want to leave at this period in their lives, then by all means – ‘stay together’.

3. If They Are Engaging in Their Shadow Work: It was meant for everyone to go to the 5D, but many will have to live out this life and go there in their next lifetime. Others will expire or pass away and go to the 5D without their bodies.

Everyone knows right now, especially those in the 5D, that if they want to remain in a relationship with someone who is not 5D.

If one of you is doing your Shadow Work and you know they are trying to get on the SAME PAGE with you, then stay together and work on your relationship. Again, all Therapists/Counselors are 3D, so basically, you have to do your Shadow Work.

They need to decide if they want to do their ‘Shadow Work’ and transition into the 5D, where there will be peace, love, joy, and happiness, or stay entrenched in the 3D ‘Matrix’ negativity, where there is sadness, chaos, or turmoil.

-Be Careful How You Use Your Separation: We are moving into a 5D ‘Spiritual’ New Earth, where everyone will be communicating using Telepathy, with their clair skills, and their Pineal Glands (3rd Eye) will be activated, so many will be able to see in the past, present, and future. 

Couples will know whether the other person used their time apart to try to meet others. Be aware of Transgender Women. A trans woman is a person assigned male at birth who identifies and lives as a woman.

Trans women who actually hate biological women are letting them know that men wearing wedding rings are always in their presence, so be aware of this.

Go ahead and separate or move into two different homes, and keep raising your frequencies and vibrations. Read the blog post entitled “How To Raise Your Frequencies and Vibrations.”  If it is meant to be, you will find your way back together.

 

Read the blog posts:

How To Raise Your Frequencies and Vibrations

Prepare for Ascension Symptoms

Which StarSeed Are You?

Signs You Are Experiencing a Spiritual Awakening

How To Ask for Help from Your Guardian Angels and Spirit Guides

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